Tag Archives: parenting

Twins and the Lone Invitation: Five Reasons to Back Off

Ah, the dreaded lone birthday party invitation. If you have twins, it’s coming. Maybe not now, maybe not next week but at some point in your twins’ early school years, one will get an invitation to a party, sleepover, or play date that the other does not. Now what do you do? Do you take […]

Twins and School: When One Wants to Separate

Question of the Week: My identical twin girls are in second grade. The school tried to put them in separate classes last year without consulting us. This upset my girls very much so I pushed and had them put back into the same class. It’s midway through the year now and the school is suggesting […]

Would You Ask One Twin To Spy On the Other?

The other day while driving in the car with one of my twins, I had something on my mind that I wanted to talk to him about but deliberately kept my big mouth shut. Not an easy task for me. I literally had to bite my lip! It wasn’t his driving that I wanted to discuss, […]

Can Twins Safely Sleep in the Same Crib?

Question of the Week: I have three-month-old identical twin boys. I had always planned on them sleeping together in the same crib but on the day we were discharged from the hospital after their birth, the staff said absolutely no sleeping together. I was devastated but the staff explained it was to prevent infant death. […]

Tips For Taming Toddler Twins

OK, maybe taming is a bit harsh but for me, the toddler years were challenging. Sure, most toddler twins are finally sleeping through the night—a big plus from the days when they woke up at least a half dozen times a night. And yes, they are darn cute at that age, too, with their chubby […]

When One Twin Spends a Night Away Is It Harder for Mom or Cotwin?

About a year ago, I wrote a blog post that discussed a twin dilemma. Namely, why do singleton children often spend a night away from their families from a much earlier age than twins? It was definitely the case with my own fraternal twin boys, who by age 15 had never spent a night apart while their […]

“I’m All Alone, Again.” The Plight of the Singleton Sibling to Twins

“I’m all alone, again.” Those were the words my singleton son said the other day after we had just dropped off his older, twin brothers for a week at camp. While not completely surprised by his statement, I did press my youngest on what exactly he meant. “They have each other and I’ve always been more independent,” he answered. […]

Newborn Twins? Sure, I Can Handle That!

When I read about the brouhaha surrounding the plans for the new (and pregnant) CEO of Yahoo!, Marissa Mayer, to work right through her maternity leave, my first reaction wasn’t “Wow, way to go! Chalk up one for all working moms!” Nor did I think, “Crap. She just set the women’s movement back 20 years.” Nope. I simply thought, “It’s got […]

My Twins Spoiled? Who Has the Time

Recently, The New Yorker magazine published a piece called, Spoiled Rotten: Why Do Kids Rule the Roost? The title pretty much sums up the article—writer Elizabeth Kolbert examines why so many American parents do just about everything for their children from household chores to tying their shoes. The result? By indulging our children and expecting so little of them when they’re young, she speculates, we’re creating a nation of future incompetent […]

My Twins are Odd…and Even

A few days ago, when my teenage fraternal twin sons and I were headed out the door for the day, Twin A went for the front seat of the car while Twin B took his spot in the backseat. There was no confrontation or arguing; no jockeying for position. How did this happen (and with teenagers no less)? Simple. […]