Category Archives: Question of the Week

My Twins are Loud and Aggressive

Question of the Week: I have twin grandsons. One twin is very aggressive, pushes his brother down and is generally ugly to him but he does look to him for help sometimes. He is mean and doesn’t listen to me or his parents. They are five and in separate classrooms in school. My daughter does dress […]

My Twins Compete to Be Heard

Question of the Week: My boys, Jack and Riley, are turning nine years old in July. They are simply not able to tell us about a shared experience they have had. For instance, we recently asked them to tell us about their stay at a friend’s farm. They talked over each other, each speaking louder and louder, competing to […]

How Do I Take My Twins to the Park Without Losing Them?

Question of the Week: I’m a stay-at-home mom with 18-month-old fraternal twin boys. They are very active! I would love to take them to the park by myself so they can run around but I’m so afraid that they will run off in opposite directions and that I’ll lose them! I know that sounds a bit […]

I Need Help With My Aggressive Toddler Twin!

Question of the Week: I have fraternal twin boys who are 16 months old. Recently one of the boys has become super aggressive. He steals his brother’s toys, hits, bites, throws food and bangs his head on the wall or the floor. It seems like nothing I can do will make him happy or calm […]

Boy-Girl Twins: Should They Have Their Own Bedrooms?

Question of the Week: My daughter and husband have fraternal twins, a boy and girl who are now 5 years old. They are sleeping in the same bedroom and have been since birth. At what age should they have their own rooms? —D. F. Answer: Your question is one that inevitably pops up in all […]

How Do I Get Out of the House Alone with My Twins?

Question of the Week: My twin boys are four months old and I just don’t know how to get out of the house alone with them. I am home alone with them during the day and need to be able to get out more for my sanity. I live in a third-floor condo with no […]

Will Too Much Independence Hurt the Twin Bond?

Question of the Week: I’m a working mom of five-year-old fraternal twin girls. They’re currently in preschool three days a week. On the days they don’t attend I send them to separate baby-sitters. I’ve done this for almost a year as I’ve always felt they should be independent of each other. They’re both completely different […]

Should I Put My Identical Twins Back in Class Together?

Question of the Week: Our six-year-old identical girls are coming to the end of their school year having been split for the first time. They were pretty independent before but we can now see worrying signs that they have become clingy and regressed socially since they have been separated. They are also not doing as […]

When an Identical Twin Doesn’t Want to Share a Classroom

Question of the Week: First, let me say how much I respect your books and your opinion. I am a fraternal twin and a mum of identical twin girls and your book, Parenting School-Age Twins and Multiples, is one of the few twin books which I think really captures the essence and dilemmas of being a twin […]

Should I Separate My Twins in Daycare?

Question of the Week: Q: I have been reading your blog for a bit and I have a question. Should I separate my twins daughters in daycare? I have 17-month twin daughters that go four days a week to daycare and share the same classroom. One of the caretakers tells me one twin (Amy) watches over her […]